A few years back for Valentine’s Day I made a list of 100 things I loved about Roland. At the time it was an affordable gift and he seemed to really appreciate the kudos. I recently came across the document on my computer and re-read my list. It was interesting to me how quickly it sparked a strong emotion of love and affection for my partner, even just in the middle of a Thursday morning. Similarly, Roland has expressed to me that there have been days when he re-read the list and it makes him feel great to be reminded of so many of his great qualities and the appreciation I have for him.
We have used this as example and suggestion to others close to us as a way to get back in touch in their relationships. Though it seems simple, I wanted to offer this as a suggestion to others. Make a list of the things you love about your partner. What makes you feel good? What makes you laugh? What makes you smile? What do you miss the most when they are not around? What are you grateful for? You can choose to share this list with them, as I did, or it may be more appropriate to keep it to yourself. But understand the power of words. Just the act of making this list will create emotion in you and remind you of your blessings and the things you appreciate about each other. It only takes a few minutes and you will be surprised how quickly you can come up with 100 things. It is a great exercise to complete and I believe gives a positive result every time.
Regardless of your current situation, you will benefit from this process. If you are happy and madly in love, this will communicate those feelings to your significant other. If you are struggling in your relationship and feel frustrated or angry, this will draw your attention back to the positive things and the reasons you fell in love in the first place. Or, if you are simply in a lull or rut, as we all find ourselves occasionally, this is a great way to keep yourself from falling into complacency as day to day life can sometimes feel redundant.
Our primary relationship is a huge part of our lives. It is essential that we keep it at the top of the priority list and nurture it regularly. This is just one way I have found to make sure I am focused on the blessings in my life and communicating those as well. Take a few minutes to do this, just because, for no specific occasion or reason. Or, use this as part of a Valentine’s gift. Revisit your list regularly. You will be surprised how grateful it will make you feel and how great it will make your partner feel.
What is the best Valentine’s gift you have ever given?
